tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3827507184708653105.post4105525357529879383..comments2023-06-13T08:15:07.636-07:00Comments on Burning Cocoons: Long time no post.Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03165448435481764718noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3827507184708653105.post-80143253656216770662009-10-28T15:03:30.110-07:002009-10-28T15:03:30.110-07:00Good to know things are going well, hope they are ...Good to know things are going well, hope they are still going ok for you, love. all the best, LauraShoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14090768549182973598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3827507184708653105.post-86357166790423861492009-08-27T02:52:59.001-07:002009-08-27T02:52:59.001-07:00its not a mistake, I started this post weeks ago, ...its not a mistake, I started this post weeks ago, but I didn't finish and post it. It's my fault girls. The blame lies with me. Thanks both of you<3Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03165448435481764718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3827507184708653105.post-50649218713610175882009-08-26T13:53:25.050-07:002009-08-26T13:53:25.050-07:00This just showed up on my feed today, it wasn'...This just showed up on my feed today, it wasn't there yesterday, so it's possible blogger had a glitch?<br /><br />Sara, so glad to see you back in here, and I'm glad you are okay!<br /><br />Over the years I've talked to plenty of women just starting their own journey of discovery and growth. One of the big things I've always said is that no matter what problems you have when you start transition, you'll find them still there when you get back to dealing with the rest of life overall. It's actually in ways a good thing, because it proves that transition isn't exactly the major big deal some folks make out of it, life continues on. It's also an indication of how possible and realistic the journey can be. It's reassuring in ways, because it means it is a part of life, that like any journey has a start, middle and end and then we can get on with the rest of our lives.<br /><br />As to proof to you Mom that you're happier, what does she want? What is she thinking? Wants you doing the happy dance on the diningroom table to music only you can hear? Sky writing over the house:<br /><br />"Mom, I'm so much happier now than I ever was! Love, Your Daughter Sara?"<br /><br />I mean this is the high of convoluted thinking and a measure of her own gross misunderstanding of life and feeling.<br /><br />Is the glass half full? Half Empty? Both with the potential for each state? How does the glass feel? Would it be happier if it were full, or is it perhaps feeling bloated and uncomfortable with even that much water. Would it be happier empty?<br /><br />Isn't you word, you saying you're are happier good enough? Frankly I think it's awesome you're happier, as you should be, and have every confidence that you are the expert in Sara's happiness. Doesn't she notice that you're more animated, smiling more, lighter? That you're not mopping around, being slwly crushed to death under the weight of that horrible secret?<br /><br />There's also the simple fact that her being so critical, the family still having it's issues, stunts your happiness factor while around them. There's still the memory of walk on eggshells, of the pain the inflicted on you, the horrible oppressive limitations of their own expectations on you. Me thinks she's not thinking any straighter than she was when giving you so much grief. But that's just me.<br /><br />I'm so glad to hear that you're okay, and moving along with life, you own life, not the one your family was trying to force upon you. You're a good girl Sara and doing a great job. Hopefully we'll see more of you in here.<br /><br />Always know we care! Hugs, SamSamantha Shantihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10586759980410037672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3827507184708653105.post-30328457323326359512009-08-26T06:36:55.504-07:002009-08-26T06:36:55.504-07:00Since you're on my RSS feed list, I don't ...Since you're on my RSS feed list, I don't know how this escaped my attention for so long. Welcome back! I'm glad to see you writing again.Véro Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02895169022031921712noreply@blogger.com